Imagine for a moment what your life would be like if you always tried your best, no more or no less.
Imagine for a moment the amount of mental and emotional energy you would save yourself by dissolving feelings of guilt, blame and self judgment.
Imagine for a moment the self-love, acceptance and celebration you welcome into your heart when you say no to feelings of regret and remorse.
Give yourself the assurance to embark on this journey of radical self-acceptance. Embrace and accept this invitation to put this simple, yet profound principle into practice to shift and transform the way you perceive and relate to your efforts.
If you always try your best, you can trust that its always enough.
Honor Where You’re At
Our best can and will change from moment to moment. Just like the ever-changing, impermanent nature of life, our capacity to kick-ass and take names will vary on many circumstances.
Our health, mood and energy levels will all influence what our best looks like at any given moment. At times our best may feel high quality, while others, not as much.
For instance, our energy first thing in the morning versus after a long day of work will yield different capacities for what our best looks like.
Learn and know that this is more than acceptable.
By always doing our best according to where we are at in this moment, we can strive and excel when we feel rested, healthy and powerful, while honoring our needs with cautious pace when we’re not feeling super charged.
By honoring our natural cycles of plowing forward and receding back for recuperation, we allow ourselves to live in accordance with our natural waxing and waning experience.
There are times and activities of speed and exhilaration that can multiply our enthusiasm and energy on some days, that can burn us out and leave us depleted at other times.
Tune in with what your best looks like at any given moment.
By doing so, you preserve your precious energy to excel in all you pursue with a greater care and attention to your sustainability and longevity. By doing so, you go with yourself instead of against.
Curb Your Inner Critic
So you were able to knock out a full-laundry list of chores in one morning, while juggling deadlines and showing up early for your business lunch?
Cut yourself some slack for not feeling mega juiced up to knock out more come the evening.
Put your foot down towards self-judgment and self-abuse.
Dismiss the inner critic that may size up and compare your previous performances and achievements. Understand and observe with skillful view that many of our habitual patterns have been firmly established through countless experiences and affirmations. We may not always create change or bring goals to fruition at the speed in which we desire, but we can always try our best.
Recognize your energy levels, mood, and the quality of your experience in your body (Are you feeling relaxed or tense?) as signals and communication from your body of what your needs are.
Don’t give your inner judgments permission to neglect and deny time for vital self-care and rejuvenation practices.
If you strive to do your best in each moment, you can eliminate the urge to judge yourself, dissolving needless blame, guilt and self-punishment.
When and if the inner critic rears its head, casting doubt and criticisms of your efforts, you know you’ve got the answer:
“I did my best, and that’s always enough.”
Your best is always enough.
Chances are, life has already dished out enough experiences to show you that things won’t always go the way we want them to. Despite the ebbs and flows of life not perfectly aligning with our preferences at all times, we are granted countless opportunities throughout our lives to show up to the best of our abilities.
From the easeful, joyous, celebration times to challenging, “didn’t see that coming”, bumps in the road, if we arrive to each moment of our life willing and able to do the best we can, we can dissolve any remorse or regret.
With this one simple truth, we can liberate ourselves from the mental bondage of self-accusation and regretfulness.
Give yourself permission to celebrate your earnest efforts in all circumstances and expressions of your life.
It is more than enough.
Inspired by Don Miguel Ruiz’s “The Four Agreements.”