Cultivate Your Support System - Being Vulnerable - Part 1


We hear it all the time: find your support system.

But what does this really mean? How do we do it?

The answer is simple, but not always easy. We “find” support by creating support, and this often takes time and intention. We must be willing to do this work. Having a group of individuals whom you can call upon in times of need or joy is invaluable, and it occurs through being

  • vulnerable,
  • speaking our truth,
  • and letting go of all fear and judgements.

Vulnerability: 

There is tremendous power in being vulnerable.

Some benefits include:

  • Creating a space for enormous growth
  • Strengthening your ability to be compassionate
  • Closer relationships with the ones who matter most to you

We are all unique and beautiful in our very own way, and the people around us deserve to see more of who we truly are. When we show our true selves to others, we offer them a rare gift, because no one else can truly replicate what we are.

Hiding from others says, “I don’t like me,” “You won’t like me,” “I have nothing to offer,” or “You don’t deserve all that I have to offer.” You DO have a lot to offer, even if you can’t see it right now. In fact, the more you allow others to see you, the more you will start to see your own gifts in a brighter light.

Society has conditioned us to keep our thoughts to ourselves.

Things we’re told not to talk about or show others:

  • When we’re sad.
  • When we’re angry.
  • When we’re elated with joy.
  • When we’re proud of ourselves.
  • When we love or appreciate others.

The positive? We can change any. time. we. want. It’s true. The power to change is always within us, even when the outside world remains exactly the same. We can choose to open our hearts and stay true to ourselves by allowing vulnerability in.

Being vulnerable is a skill, and it doesn’t happen overnight, so...

Where can you practice this skill?

Online:

The Internet is full of online support groups, and this is a great place to start. Remember to find spaces where tolerance is key. In the community guidelines, violent and hateful language should never be permitted. Positivity and support should always be the main focus.

At Raw Alignment, community is arguably our most important resource. That’s why we’ve created Facebook groups like The Raw Alignment Community, The Raw Alignment Movement, and a closed Facebook group for every retreat we have.

In Person:

Our favorite options, of course, include in-person support, such as...

  • hanging out with friends and family who lift you up
    • cook meals
    • watch movies
    • take walks
    • play games
  • joining meet-ups and other groups in your community
    • meetup.com
    • nextdoor.com
    • any local community events you can find
  • the Raw Alignment retreats
    • come see how others have come together to form sisterly and brotherly bonds they never knew imaginable

Tips for strengthening your vulnerability skills:

  • Practice mindfulness, and then listen to your gut
  • Look to yourself for validation - not others - and then be a role model
  • Don’t assume anything. Ask questions from a state of genuine curiosity.
  • Release all expectations you have of others

Questions to ask yourself:

  • How am I reacting right now, in this moment?
  • What is causing me to react this way? Is it something internal, external, or something in between?
  • How do I want to show up in this situation?

Not only can you change your own life, but you can also encourage others to live their most authentic lives. Role modeling vulnerability with your actions provides a safe, nonjudgmental space for others to show up as their true selves, and this is how positive community is created. 

It starts with you. 

2 comments

  • Amy

    This has really impacted me. I have personally been struggling with only relying on one person as a support system . This has been bad because when they are busy I don’t know who to go to. I have closed everyone else out. The relationship ended up being so toxic because of this and the constant need to be together. Because of that I ended the relationship so I could find my own independence. I have wondered if it was the right thing to do, but overall my new support system has told me I am doing the right thing for myself. I don’t like to set aside things and help myself. My depression has caused me to feel worthless, and like I don’t deserve it. My friends, and therapist have really helped to make me do it even though it is uncomfortable. Thank you Alyse for always being a support system for me. I can always go to your channel to find clarity. You are the positive, happy person I strive to be. If I could meet one person in the world it would be you. So much love.

  • Nicki

    Thank you for sharing. While I’m not on Facebook anymore, I enjoyed being a part of your online community for a while when I was. I have a small community offline now and am working to have open and positive relationships with those closest to me.

    I am grateful to have your input and insight as a part of the goodness and abundance I enjoy in my life. Thank you.

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